Reacting and Overcorrecting Can Land You in a Ditch

by Vanetta Stephens on July 15, 2015

in Change Your Life, Change Your Mind, Relationships, Uncategorized

Reacting and Overcorrecting Can Land You in a Ditch
Reacting and Overcorrecting Can Land You in a Ditch

Have you ever been driving down the road when something takes you by surprise?  Perhaps you suddenly wake up after having drifted off to sleep.  Maybe something you saw–or thought you saw–jumped out in front of you. A reaction often follows which tends to cause you to overcorrect. This may mean that your vehicle fishtails as you try to regain control. You may swerve into the lane of oncoming traffic, or veer off the road, and perhaps become stuck on the side of the road.   Reacting, oftentimes, leads to overcorrecting that can land you in a place you really don’t want to be.  Overcorrecting can be disasterous!

Similarly, when going through your daily life, things can come up in your relationships, for example, that can cause you to knee-jerk, or react without thinking.  Many times those reactions are fear-based.  The tendency then, is to over correct in an attempt to protect yourself in some way.

Fear–> React–> Overcorrect–>Sidelined in some way.

You want to learn to respond rather than react.  So here are some suggestions to help you avoid over reacting and overcorrecting::

1.  Make sure you are hearing—being saturated with— the truly GOOD News of the Gospel of Jesus. Meditate on what He’s already done for you (on the cross), and then on what His Life in you   provides for you on a moment-by-moment, daily basis.

2.  Learn to listen to the other person’s heart, and not just their words.  Lean in, ask questions.  Ask for clarification to gain more understanding of where they are coming from and what they are intending to communicate.  You may need to hear “more of the story,” so take the time to really hear.

3.  Learn to think before you speak.

4.  Give yourself some time to hear God before making any kind of decision or settle on a conclusion.

5.  Ask yourself about what your decision is based on, and what will it produce.  Are you basing your decision on fear, or anger, or self-preservation?  Will it produce in you the Fruit of the Spirit, ie:  Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, or Self-Control, or the opposite?

6.  Seek wise counsel for some perspective on what you’ve heard, or seen that is stirring a strong reaction. Sometimes, someone who isn’t in the middle of the situation can see from a more objective vantage point and help you see another point of view.

The desired goal is to learn to respond in love, and with kindness regardless of how you feel about any issue that has come to your attention.  (By the way, in a dangerous type of situation, safety is the goal!)

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